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ASIAdocument.write(“” + m[today.getMonth()+1]+ ” “+ today.getDate()+”, ” + theYear + ” “);HOMECHINAWORLDBUSINESSLIFESTYLECULTURETRAVELSPORTSOPINIONREGIONALFORUMNEWSPAPERChina Daily PDFChina Daily E-paperChina Daily Global PDFChina Daily Global E-paperOpinion / Kim LeeEditorialsOp-EdColumnistsContributorsCartoonsSpecialsFrom the PressForum TrendsFrom the ReadersDebateEditors Pick:Syrian refugeescyberspaceV-Day paradeshrimp scandalTPPHaircuts, freedom and responsibilityBy Kim Lee( Updated:2014-04-17 09:48Comments Print Mail Large Medium SmallThis past weekend my youngest daughter announced that she “really could use a haircut”. I agreed, so we popped into a neighborhood salon. Within moments she was whisked away to the sink and sporting a head full of suds. As she happily chirped away, answering the stylist’s familiar questions in Chinese, “I can….Li Hua….I’m five and half,” I slipped out the door to take a quick phone call. When I finished my conversation, the stylist asked another familiar question, but this time his question was for me. “How do you want me to cut your daughter’s hair?”I automatically replied, “I don’t know. You need to ask her.”The look on his face reminded me that my standard response was not the response he was expecting and our routine dialogue was taking a sudden jagged turn into unfamiliar territory. An eager assistant caught the “I don’t know” part of my answer and scurried off to find a magazine of assorted hairstyles, thinking I needed some help in deciding on a hairstyle for my daughter. I politely declined the offer and clarified, “It’s her hair, not mine. It’s her choice. She can tell you how she wants you to cut it.” Then I quickly excused myself to the restroom as a way to expedite the process.I’ve never really understood why my relaxed position on this small matter causes so much bewilderment among hairdressers and other parents in hair salons. It’s just hair. It grows quickly, and in the big scheme of things, it really isn’t that important.Kim Lee 
I made the decision to skip the Chinese tradition of head shaving when my daughters were infants and I have tried my best to “stay out of their hair” both literally and figuratively ever since.As long as they keep their hair clean and manage to abide by school regulations (which I support and understand) I don’t interfere with their choices. I also maintain this attitude when it comes to clothing. As long as the clothes are clean and they are able to dress themselves without my help, the colors, combinations and styles are totally up to them.Asymmetric bangs, unflattering mushroom haircuts and mismatched socks may not be my preferred style choices, but they lead to an understanding of something much more important than fashion. These early experiences not only develop a child’s self-confidence and decision-making skills, they also provide an introduction to the concept “freedom entails responsibility”.Some parents misinterpret this concept by neglecting the responsibility factor and granting their children absolute freedom to make totally age-inappropriate decisions. I often hear from distressed parents that “I have to make his favorite dishes every night or he won’t eat” or “She doesn’t like to go to bed, so she stays up and watches TV until very late.” These practices are not developing a child’s self-confidence, sense of responsibility, or independence – they are instilling bad habits and creating tiny dictators. These tiny dictators, or little emperors (as they are sometimes referred to in China) and their parents have a tough go of things when it comes time to leave the empire of Grandma, Grandpa, Mom and Dad and enter the “ kingdom of kindergarten and beyond”.Previous Page1 2 Next PagePrevious Page1 2 Next Page8.03KMost Viewed Todays Top NewsUS cyber thief cries thiefJoining Africa against terrorismSecurity harmonizationBuilding security in AsiaA world free of wartime rape is within our reachForum TrendsForum trends: 10 common Western superstitionsForum trends: Cultural taboos in ChinaForum trends: Some “bad” habits Ive picked up in ChinaForum trends: Chinas number superstitionsHow to make friends with foreignersForum trends: You know you are in China when…(Part II)Chinas leftover women-intelligent and charmingColumnistsHow good a govt India has gotNew type of urbanization is in the detailsFeatured ContributorsChina’s headache in cutting forex reservesEat less, treat moreStar BloggersMy wedding incorporated Chinese culture By jiewei798Although I am totally a romantic at heart, I have never been the type of girl to fantasize about my “dream wedding”.Getting old in ChinaWhen you look into the mirror today, imagine what you would say ten years from now about todays you. Its technically a downward comparison with the future youJob-seeking tips for the gradutesSometimes a small point could be more valuable, let’s check my job hunting experience and suggestions could be useful for you.SpecialChina Q1 GDP numbers in focusOur prayers are with youTop 10 policy changes since last two sessions…| About China Daily | Advertise on Site | Contact Us | Job Offer |Copyright 1995 -. All rights reserved. The content (including but not limited to text, photo, multimedia information, etc) published in this site belongs to China Daily Information Co (CDIC). Without written authorization from CDIC, such content shall not be republished or used in any form. Note: Browsers with 1024*768 or higher resolution are suggested for this site.License for publishing multimedia online 0108263             Registration Number: 130349      

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